Sons are nice
Jun 30, 2003 Adoption
My mom and my friend, L, both think that the baby we’re going to adopt will be a girl. They both use feminine pronouns when talking about “her.” I’m kinda thinking it’ll be a boy.
This is a weird story but I’m going to attempt to tell it correctly.
When I was pregnant with Noah — maybe four or five months along — I was working with some kids and I glanced over at one little boy playing at the rice table. He was African American, about two, and he was leaning over so all I could see was the back of his neck and I thought without thinking (you know those gleams of thoughts), “Oh, there’s my son.”
It’s difficult to explain. It was something about the nape of his neck, it seemed so familiar to me in the same way that Noah’s neck is familiar to me now. Of course I didn’t even have a son yet and I didn’t even know how the nape of your child’s neck is familiar and beloved but it was that exact feeling. Maybe I slipped into an alternate universe or something.
In any case, since that moment I’ve always known in the back of my mind that I would adopt and I always thought a little further back in my mind that the child I would adopt would be an African American boy.
If my mom and friend L are right and we adopt a girl, then I’ll assume we’re going back to the pool at some point because I know another son is waiting for me. I can’t wait to meet him.
June 30th, 2003 at 6:10 pm
that’s such a sweet story!
June 30th, 2003 at 9:36 pm
What a great story!
I think many women have premonitions of these things. A while back, I was on an infertility discussion list. One of the women on the list posted something one day about how she had a dream the previous night about having twin daughters, and one of them was moving away from her. She had her last IVF the next day, and two weeks later she posted that she was pregnant. A few weeks after that, she found out it was twins. Another few weeks later, she lost one of the babies. The one that made it full-term was a girl.
June 30th, 2003 at 10:57 pm
Boys are wonderful! I have 3
Just want to congratulate you on your decision to adopt and wish you a smooth adoption journey. We too are adopting (a 2yo girl from India). I’ve been reading your blog for over a year now and I’m so excited for you!